You don't have to hide. It's hard to figure out what suits you best when one's clothes are always in disarray. It's hard to know what your habits are if you keep your clothes, pants, and writing all around you, right? The same applies to transgender hookup relationships. The more clutter you present to your transgender hookup partner, the more difficult it is for people to understand you. It takes a lot of energy to be with your ts dating partner when people don't see who you really are. This will do no good to the relationship between the two of you.
As a transgender male or female, it can cause a lot of stress and unnecessary trouble in your relationships when you're hiding your true self. And if you're worried that your secrets or privacy will hurt your family or your relationships, there's a good chance you'll miss out on someone who really wants to love you. In so doing, you deprive them of the chance to really get close to you and know who you really are. This is a pity for both the person who wants to love you and for you.
If you want to find your own happiness and love like other women or men, then the most important thing you can do is to love yourself. A person who does not love themselves should love you in what way? Since you don't even know what it means to love someone, what are your chances of getting love? Here I encourage transgender and cross-dressing people to love themselves. Love yourself for who you are, including all your strengths, weaknesses and special points. This is not a shame, on the contrary, it can be a good way to release your true self. Only when you are relaxed and happy can you attract more excellent people. Stop whining about how unfair the fate of transgender people is, because you can change it yourself.
Second, you should get out of your own narrow circle, meet new people with a more open attitude, and actually show them that you are a cross-dresser when appropriate. When the two of you can be honest with each other, communication between you will become a little easier and you will know each other better.
I believe that when a person makes up his mind to change himself, he can really do it. Now all you have to do is let go of the baggage and the stress in your mind, and then embrace the people and things that will happen to you in a new and positive way.